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Feb. 23rd, 2012 10:41 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
nilchance- Depression-proofing your home: This is less about suicide prevention than about how to maximize your space for comfort, light and easy maintenance.
- Approximate directions to a burial: A son remembers his father's death. "My father’s mortician was a careless barber. Stepping up to the open casket, I realized too much had been taken off the beard."
- He who casts the first stone: Swinger parties in Texas are protested by Christian fringe groups. Scary and rage-inducing story about the threats faced by non-traditional couples.
- Sometimes being rude is the acceptable response: "When we engage in reasoned debate we, by inference, present our opponent as having a position due some level of respect."
- Five fallacies that medical TV shows use all the time that have never happened to me: "I find that doctors *hate* difficult-to-diagnose patients, and tend to label them with emotional problems faster than your head can spin."
- Chronicles of mansplaining: Professor feminism and the deleted comments of doom: "It’s not just random dudes going “THAT’S NOT SEXIST,” as they do every time a woman says the word “sexism” in relation to anything. It’s a dude appropriating feminism in order to silence women who identify things as sexist."
- Why I didn't just call the cops: Trigger warning for sexual assault and its dismissal by critics. "Formally report or you have no right to complain... Like it's that easy."
- Approximate directions to a burial: A son remembers his father's death. "My father’s mortician was a careless barber. Stepping up to the open casket, I realized too much had been taken off the beard."
- He who casts the first stone: Swinger parties in Texas are protested by Christian fringe groups. Scary and rage-inducing story about the threats faced by non-traditional couples.
- Sometimes being rude is the acceptable response: "When we engage in reasoned debate we, by inference, present our opponent as having a position due some level of respect."
- Five fallacies that medical TV shows use all the time that have never happened to me: "I find that doctors *hate* difficult-to-diagnose patients, and tend to label them with emotional problems faster than your head can spin."
- Chronicles of mansplaining: Professor feminism and the deleted comments of doom: "It’s not just random dudes going “THAT’S NOT SEXIST,” as they do every time a woman says the word “sexism” in relation to anything. It’s a dude appropriating feminism in order to silence women who identify things as sexist."
- Why I didn't just call the cops: Trigger warning for sexual assault and its dismissal by critics. "Formally report or you have no right to complain... Like it's that easy."
"And most of all, women who lose." -- Russ
Date: 2012-02-24 02:35 am (UTC)That’s what it’s actually like, being a woman: Playing nice with every random asshole, because this random asshole might be the one who hurts you. And then, if he hurts you anyway, they’ll tell you that you led him on.
There is no safe course of action; you'll be blamed for whatever happens, and this isn't some tragic hole in society's safety net, it's the whole point: women's job is to lose so that men can win. A man who's not a winner is not really a man, right? And you're a man or you're nothing.
So a guy who starts an interaction with a woman and doesn't get anywhere -- doesn't get some reaction that he can call a win -- gets desperate, vicious. The uncooperative woman who doesn't lose is pulling him out the airlock into self-worth vacuum (he feels). He's the injured party! After all, she doesn't have any self-worth to lose.
I think I'd better work backwards to the one about making my homespace cheerier. Urrrrrgh.