linkspam (last of the bookmarks)

[nilchance]

- Depression-proofing your home: This is less about suicide prevention than about how to maximize your space for comfort, light and easy maintenance.
- Approximate directions to a burial: A son remembers his father's death. "My father’s mortician was a careless barber. Stepping up to the open casket, I realized too much had been taken off the beard."
- He who casts the first stone: Swinger parties in Texas are protested by Christian fringe groups. Scary and rage-inducing story about the threats faced by non-traditional couples.
- Sometimes being rude is the acceptable response: "When we engage in reasoned debate we, by inference, present our opponent as having a position due some level of respect."
- Five fallacies that medical TV shows use all the time that have never happened to me: "I find that doctors *hate* difficult-to-diagnose patients, and tend to label them with emotional problems faster than your head can spin."
- Chronicles of mansplaining: Professor feminism and the deleted comments of doom: "It’s not just random dudes going “THAT’S NOT SEXIST,” as they do every time a woman says the word “sexism” in relation to anything. It’s a dude appropriating feminism in order to silence women who identify things as sexist."
- Why I didn't just call the cops: Trigger warning for sexual assault and its dismissal by critics. "Formally report or you have no right to complain... Like it's that easy."

Comments

[mourning-night.livejournal.com]

That first link is exactly what I've been looking for.

Thanks!

[del schlosser (from livejournal.com)]

Thanks for the link! I hope the article was helpful to you in some way.

~Del
www.dyingforadiganosis.com

Five fallacies...

[serenhybrid.livejournal.com]

A million times yes. My mum and I watch Casualty and E.R (a lot) and are often equal parts amused and annoyed when all of these crop up, especially the nurse/doctor running outside to get the patient to reconcile with their family. I can't even get a nurse standing outside my mum's hospital bed to tell me what's happening, let alone track me down for *any* reason!

Thanks for this, nice to see other people notice too.

[ladyfalcon.livejournal.com]

Boy did I ever need that first link. A year and a half ago, my parents asked me to move from where I was living (with my grandfather) into my dad's townhouse, as my dad's job was moving him out of state and someone needed to watch my old dog (since deceased) and one of my mother's dogs that she'd more or less abandoned with my dad.

It sounds nice, having a whole townhouse to yourself with someone else paying for utilities and all, but it's been really painful for me since then. My dad is, to really understate the case, not a cleaner, and he's also not someone who can say no. Through the decade that he lived in the house, he acquired a lot of stuff from my mom that she "offered" him when she wanted to get rid of it, plus his own stuff, plus had anywhere from one to five dogs living with him depending on how irresponsible my mother was being at the moment. All this in a house that is essentially four rooms big. It was a disaster.

It is still, frankly, a disaster, but I'm trying very hard to make inroads in the junk and the dirt. That article really fired me to do a big push of cleaning this morning, and hopefully will give me the strength to keep going until I can create a place that I don't feel put-upon just being in.

[dodger-sister.livejournal.com]

The link - Five fallacies that medical TV shows use all the time that have never happened to me - is everything I have been feeling my whole life but most urgently in the last six months, when I have been mysteriously ill and no one knows why. I was just sent home from the hospital after three days and left, as sick as I was, to follow up on my own with specialists and tests that I had no energy for and with doctors who couldn't even be bothered to call me with th test results, let alone say, "That test showed nothing. Let's see what we can try next."

My sister keeps saying, "If only Dr. House were real," but sadly for me, he isn't and I am just left to my own devices.

Thank you for the link. (the first link was very interesting too and the one about the swingers in texas, as depressing as it was).

[robanybody.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much for the 'mansplaining' article.

[kidkai.livejournal.com]

I really need to look at that first one. My home (and my room in particular) are a mess. A huge, overwhelming mess.

"And most of all, women who lose." -- Russ

[auroramama]

Chronicles of Mansplaining: so good.

That’s what it’s actually like, being a woman: Playing nice with every random asshole, because this random asshole might be the one who hurts you. And then, if he hurts you anyway, they’ll tell you that you led him on.

There is no safe course of action; you'll be blamed for whatever happens, and this isn't some tragic hole in society's safety net, it's the whole point: women's job is to lose so that men can win. A man who's not a winner is not really a man, right? And you're a man or you're nothing.

So a guy who starts an interaction with a woman and doesn't get anywhere -- doesn't get some reaction that he can call a win -- gets desperate, vicious. The uncooperative woman who doesn't lose is pulling him out the airlock into self-worth vacuum (he feels). He's the injured party! After all, she doesn't have any self-worth to lose.

I think I'd better work backwards to the one about making my homespace cheerier. Urrrrrgh.

[bkm5191.livejournal.com]

mansplaining :( I get that all the time at my job, it's maddening.

[meret.livejournal.com]

Very interesting! Thanks for the links! :)