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Marginalized folks shouldn't always have to be the bigger person: "Today, when an "ism" shows its face, too much public sympathy rests with the offender and not the offended. As I've written before, in these times, hearing someone branded a racist is likely to upset more folks than encountered racism. Stick any bias in there--sexism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia...and the result is the same. It is, I think, the way the status quo defends itself when it gets tired of treating certain people equally."

Winter care for skin and hair, a pleasantly rhyming title for a (necessary) lesson on self-care. Go read and love it.

I'm in a dark time right now, where every action seems inordinately difficult and everything's stripped down to the necessary. I can't seem to figure out how to eat lunch; breakfast is out of the question. Showering is tough, or at least convincing myself to do so is. I'm having to force myself to leave the house at least once a day, so that I feel useful. Which sounds really pathetic, typed out like that, but there you go. Wintertime. (Aaaand I just realized that I forgot to take my morning pills. D'oh.) It's very deliberate, like learning to drive, hoping that one day the steps become automatic as breathing.