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Didn't do mini-nano yesterday. I got deflected from my goal by doctor visits and obsessive CNN watching. Because, Obama! I'm glad I wasn't at work yesterday, because my sheer glee couldn't be contained. I danced, when I heard. I bounced and I threw my arms up and I laughed, because it felt like hope had come back to our country.

So, yeah. I'm sorry I missed my goal. I am NOT sorry, however, about that one hour couples massage I had yesterday. Hnnngh. My guy (and why is it that most of the therapists who do trigger point massage are male?) popped every cord I had, basically played Freebird on my neck, and killed an incoming headache. I nearly cried on him with sheer gratitude. Felt soooo good.

And then I went home and saw the news on Prop 8, and was too depressed to do anything but snuggle my wife. Yes, my wife. I know that human rights issues never succeed in popular election, but it's damned hard not to take it personally that some assholes sit secure in their marriage rights and take away ours. That they look at our love and call it less. It stings, and it's personal, and it's infuriating.

I want to make cookies for the LGBT group on campus now. I want to hold their hands and tell them that it doesn't matter, that it'll be okay and that they don't have to own other people's hate. It's so hard, though, to think that our time has finally come and to hear again and again, not now, not yet, not so fast. My heart breaks for the couples in California.

Yesterday: very full and bittersweet.

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And then I went home and saw the news on Prop 8, and was too depressed to do anything but snuggle my wife. Yes, my wife. I know that human rights issues never succeed in popular election, but it's damned hard not to take it personally that some assholes sit secure in their marriage rights and take away ours. That they look at our love and call it less. It stings, and it's personal, and it's infuriating.

This is what I was having so much trouble explaining to people yesterday. I get to be pissed off and angry and take it personally. Talk to me tomorrow about being rational and understanding; today I get sit with my hurt feelings and not be particularly comforted by well meaning but otherwise unaffected people.

Yes. So much word. People tell me I'm too angry about things like this, and I just... it's personal. They don't mean an abstract concept, they mean me and my wife and my friends.

Three states decided to lessen a gay couple's basic human rights. I find it bleakly ironic that on the same day we elect a black man as president, we also glibly snatch away some of our citizen's rights, based purely on the gender of the one they love.

Yes, I'd classify this election as bittersweet. It was wonderful and it hurt all at the same time. I like to think that most Americans have some empathy, but apparently what we lack in empathy, we make up for in fear.

Hee! Oh, your icon.

Yeah. Very much so. There's a persistant fear of the Other, and the "we're just like you!" campaigning doesn't reach people where they live. The real issue is, we're NOT like you, but we deserve rights anyway. And that's harder for people to accept.

Unfortunately I think the change we need will have to come from the courts. Ignorant America won't vote for equality for all citizens. I agree that there is a fear of the Other, and a desire to marginalize the Other. Many Americans have a fictionalized version of gay people in their heads. This image is supported by their church. It has no roots in truth, but facts don't ever bother people who are motivated by fear.

Interracial marriage was illegal in America until Loving verses Virgina. I like to think that most Americans now accept interracial marriage as normal and not something to be looked upon as unnatural (although I know that's probably optimistic of me). We need the Supreme Court to ensure equal rights for ALL of our citizens.

ETA: Dyslexia makes spelling fun!

Edited 2008-11-07 05:08 (UTC)

My heart breaks for the couples in California.

Yeah. I have close friends in San Diego. They were planning on getting married before moving to Florida soon, and I've got no idea if they actually managed it before Nov. 4th. *is depressed*

Oh, man. *sigh*

I swear, I just don't get people sometimes.

My hubby and I were stunned when we heard the Prop 8 news. As I understand it there are going to be challenges to it's legality and I hope that gets somewhere.

Where does that leave the 18,000+ couples that already married? I haven't heard what their status will be. Will they still be considered legally married or is it like it never happened? As far as I know a law cannot be passed retroactively. Legislation can't make a new law and apply it to anything that has already happened, only to new cases.

I know it might be little comfort but opinions are changing and progress will be made. It's the wait that's so aggravating. (Well that and the bigots, they are aggravating also.)

the people who supported prop 8 are now claiming the law is retroactive and those marriages are null and void. asshats.

I think, as you say, the law can't go retroactively and de-marry those couples. Though I'm sure some asshat legislator is trying to make a case for it.

Yeah, I'm feeling less patient these days. *sigh*

I agree, hearing about Prop 8 was really distressing. A definite dampener to the happy mood.

Yes. So much word.

-hugs- That is all.

And I got so pissed off about Prop 8 that I almost accidentally came out at work but at least I found a group of people that were as angry as I was, and they're in VIRGINIA! Have hope-- changes are coming, slowly but surely.

Edited 2008-11-06 17:07 (UTC)

*smish* Thank you, love. That helps.

I'm married to a guy and we have five girls. I'd like to know what the fuck your marriage has to do with the sanctity of mine? Isn't the guy down the street that has his girlfriend come over as soon as his wife goes to work on the night shift (b/c she wants to be home for her kids) a bigger threat/disappointment/whatever to my marriage than you and your lovely wife? What the fuckity fuck people. I'm more pissed about Brittney Spears getting to annul her quickie Vegas marriage than anything.

::hands:: I've really got NOTHING. I'm just hoping and praying that once all the absentee ballots are counted there will be a different result.

WORD. Like all those reality TV "marriages" are more sacred than those of people who've been together 10, 20, 50 years? Bullshit.

Yeah, my hopes are definitely hingeing on the absentee ballots.

Don't worry about Prop 8 too much - there are already 3 lawsuits against it. (Thank goodness, otherwise I would be reacting in a much darker way than I am, because I live in a house with three other people who voted yes.)

Oh, dude, I cannot IMAGINE. *hugs*

well if the right and the religious groups admit it or not, the barn door is open and that horse is gone. Scrambling hate legislation will only stop things for so long.

I plan on laughing in the faces of a few people when same gender marriage is legal in all states. Fuck them all.