If someone needs help from me whether they are visibly disabled or not, they are going to get it along with my empathy but I am not going to treat people like victims. It isn't fun being treated like that, so I won't do it back to other people.

And THAT'S important, too! So many of my students have heard "oh, poor lamb, you can't do anything" for so long that they're happy to have our office tell them that they can do this college thing and that they're strong BECAUSE of their (ADHD, depression, whatever.)

I send out positive thoughts that your situation is as good as it can be, but I am not gonna tell you to take a vitamin, or pray, or sit in some healing waters. Just good thoughts. That's all I can give you, and maybe, a little understanding.

Thank you, love. That helps more than you'll ever know.